Have you ever looked at old photos of yourself as a baby and absolutely not recall the moment even though you were the central character?
Have you ever been asked things about your past as a child and absolutely not remember?
We only can recall small moments from our childhood that effected us in someway. Our memory blossoms as our brains start to mature. The child’s brain is continuously firing off millions of neurons learning about their world, but the memory part of their brains is still just a baby. We don’t really begin to recall things until we are teenagers and sometimes not even then.
So all those big expensive birthday parties, all those vacations, all those visits to amusement parks or pee-wee sports teams. Do they matter? The answer is yes and no. Time and effort building love and bonds together is what truly matters most. The expensive parties…not so much.
In childhood many of the fondest and stable memories come from the consistent routines that are repeated over and over. Such as suppertime together, bedtime rituals, holiday traditions, religious attendance, visits with grandparents, etc. These are often the things that can be recalled the most, unless a moment felt traumatic or frightening.
One of my favorite thoughts that sits comfortably in my philosophy for living goes like this:
You will not remember what was said.
You will not remember what was done.
But you will remember how you felt.
Childhood is about an accumulation of moments that will not be completely remembered from their memory. But it is recorded in the heart and mind in creating a human. The child will accumulate “feels,” until they are old enough to place moments with those pleasures or challenges.
This is why suppertime has potential to be one of the fondest memories of your child’s life and your collective family “feel” time.