UNDER a tree where the breezes blow,
There is the spot that it’s good to go
With the children bronzed by the Summer sun,
Bubbling with laughter and wholesome fun;
And I gather them round — all the happy clan,
And forget for a while I’m a grizzled old man.
Marjorie, Florence, and fair Lucille,
Freddy and Denny — and then we steal
An hour or two from the clock of life,
The quest of gold and the constant strife,
The clamor and noise of a city day
For the peace and joy of a bit of play.
Pirate stories for boys we tell,
For there is the place to tell them well;
With treasure Islands we build in sand,
And we mark the spot where the pirates land,
And even the place where the gold was hid
By that master of pirates, old Captain Kidd.
Then we leave the pirates and run away
To the wonderful glens where the fairies play;
And under the tree where the breezes are
We summon the fairies with crown and star,
And I tell of the wonderful things they do
When the sun is up and the skies are blue.
And the far off world may call and call,
But I never hear through my little wall
Of innocent youngsters that hem me in.
I finish one tale and a new begin;
And there we sit underneath the tree
Till mother calls all of us in for tea.
Edgar Albert Guest
Have you ever thought about
how God chooses to open and close
every single day…
Sun rises come slowly, gently, and full of warmth and sparkle.
Sun sets leave slowly, gently, calmly and comforting.
Perhaps God tries to teach us
how we should welcome and close our days.
Especially with those we love the very most.
Because that is what he does.
Do you scare your child? Perhaps not even realizing you do it?
Let’s face it the monster in us comes out in parenting no matter how great we are at it.
Which monster do you turn into most often?
1. Dracula-This is when we quietly watch our child do childish annoying things, but we are too weary, bored, or self absorbed to stop them but we accumulate the frustration like tiny droplets of blood, then in a furious frenzy that one thing tips our meter and we jump in for the bite completely unexpected. That kid never knew what bit him until it was too late–Scary!
2. The flipping Dr. Jeckyl/Mr. Hyde. This is when we are happy happy happy with our child then in an instant we turn “mad” or we are angry angry angry with our child then in an instant turn happy. The child is constantly jittery not knowing when the monster will pop out for the scare.
3. The werewolf: When we howl and howl and howl and bear our ugly teeth and spit fowl breath over our children we think our children are getting our fierce message but if we keep making constant “noise” they tune out. But constant anger-yelping is just as bad as the bite and our kids stay in a constant state of overbearance and tension before they transform into werewolves themselves on a full moon.
4. Godzilla: This is when we grab things out of hands, kick toys out of the way, and use our strength and size to show who is superior. We are so angry we use force to thrash around while yelling and breaking things up. Our children look up with horror just waiting for the Lego towers to come crashing down or Hot wheel cars to go flying, and for them to be next.
5. The Zombie: This is when our child has broken us to near death, but not quite. We don’t want to smile cute anymore. We don’t want to hear the little laugh or wipe another bottom. We shuffle along in a stupor, moaning and dragging, wishing to be dead instead of hearing another version of a Silly song or picture book. If we see one more big eyed stuffed animal or step on one more action figure we will rip it to shreds. This is when we snap and grab our child to get them to stop acting so human…It’s usually the most dangerous parenting monster to become. It’s when we “react” with any number of surprise scares for our child. And they don’t know when it is coming.
Halloween comes once a year and we allow monsters to get loose. But parent monsters, BEWARE! WE often are the very things that create the jitters for our own little beasts.
If you think your trick or treat-er is not affected by the scaries of Halloween you are a parent that has forgotten your own childhood. Be soul-sensitive at this time!
Children perceive scary things far different than adults with their “animistic thinking” (they perceive everything with real tendencies and cannot differentiate) and active imaginations. Something you think is not scary or can be dismissed in your adult mind as pretend can stick in their minds for years if not a lifetime.
Many adults think that they are toughing up their children or helping them work through fears by exposing them to terror that their immature minds are too young to handle developmentally.
But silly you–
In that little head of there’s they are making all sorts of frightening connective pictures and anxious dreams that WILL come out in other areas.
Protect your child’s soul and honor their childhood!
They need you to…
There is a difference between this:
A great beat-the-scare solution:
If you have one that is extra sensitive and find that you have got some monsters lurking around before bedtime, don’t dismay! A good mixture of potent monster spray, boiled up in one of your cauldrons, is guaranteed to rid creepy things under beds, in dark closets, in hallways or even to remove pesty brothers. Just pour the potion in a clean spray bottle and put it where you can grab it fast! Parents can help children even do a prevention pre-spray before bedtime or even take it with them in the car, just in case…
That stuff works wonders especially during this time of year.
You just never know when you will encounter a monster that you don’t like.
would I continue
with a blog
I just told parents
there is a mommy’s and daddy’s club on social media which allows us to laugh, cry, mock, tease, and even rant with a constant deluge of sarcastic, satirical, or emotional-reinforcement photos giving all of us suckers the recognition we feel we deserve for enduring this hellish life sentence we got ourselves into called parenting when we really only wanted a back rub. This blog is for the children.
someone has to remind those who forgot or are really really busy
that children are the very best things that could ever happen to the earth…
you know how to read.
You may not feel it is true but you are an expert for your child.
All parents compare parenting skills.
All parents compare childhood milestones.
That chatter is everywhere and often makes us feel guilty.
Whether you are an Australian bush parent, a parent carrying a baby in the rice paddies, or a millennial parent juggling time…non of that really matters. As long as the child is safe, clean, healthy, loved, and thriving; your way is the best way to make that happen. There are as many unique parenting strategies as there are different parents.
You get your expertise in parenting with a crash course on your first child. By the second child you are a pro. Each child comes with a whole new set of ingredients but you do have one thing– you know you can do this.
Choose the course that fits who you are as a parent and live with your way. It may not be the way parents do it in Australia or in China or even next door, but it doesn’t matter as long as your child is loved and thriving.
You are the expert parent, exactly right for your child. Be proud of yourself!